Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Life Before Parenthood

If you asked me four months ago if I thought my life would change with another addition to my family, I would have told you "not that much". It is like K has always been with our family, but I am just much busier. I am forever nursing him because he is still a slow, lazy eater. I know he doesn't have any other plans for the day but to hang out with boob in his mouth, but I do.
I also never get done with laundry and cleaning, but what mother does?
Life has changed since I became a mom in ways I never thought:

Life Before I Was a Mom (LBM): I would take risks,
I could leave a job if I hated it and take my time to find another, I would eat at McDonalds, I would show up to work after being out all night
Life Now (LN): I am still risky, sometimes I put the baby down before he is fully asleep which usually bites me in the ass, but hey, I like to live on the edge.

LBM: Weed
I knew some people who would smoke the stuff, and maybe I would have been in a poorly ventilated room with said people, and unfortunately may have inhaled some of it. Maybe.
LN: weeds are the things that I don't have enough time to pull out from my gardens

LBM: I did not know about things like hands free breast pumps, why there are so many different types of strollers and which baby gym is better then the other.
LN: I can make a hands free breast pump with a ponytail holder and 3 minutes, I can talk to you about strollers for a good 20 minutes before I get bored and I know which gym is better for your child based on age.
Go ahead ask me. I dare you.

There are plenty of other things that have change, but I have to go stick a boob in someones face. Come to think of it, that is another thing that has changed, the boobs in the face, it used to only be cute boys. Or to get into good NYC clubs.
Now it is just one 12 pound sweet boy.

What about you, what do you know now, you didn't before you were a parent?

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Friday, May 16, 2008
TMI Friday!

This might be too much information for a Friday afternoon, or not enough for you wild people out there, but I have the urge to tell you anyway: My infant son and I are on the same pooping schedule.

Very odd and strangely comforting all at the same time.





Thursday, May 15, 2008
Wanted: Local Friends

As I have said in a previous post, I am upset with my friends. I talked about it with E this weekend and he is clearly mad too. He has seen me visit at the drop of a hat, for dozens of occasions, and he thinks that in the past 8 weeks they could have found some time to do the same. I found myself trying to defend them but I couldn't. Why should I?
I haven't spoken to my friends about how I feel mostly because they haven't called. I did a little experiment and stopped emailing or writing to them to see how long it would take. I have only talked to my one of my friends one time in eight weeks, she called for my birthday, my other friend has emailed me once in awhile and the other I haven't spoken to in about a week and a half.
I guess geography plays a big role in friendships and I guess it is time to move on. Hopefully I will make some local friends now that my kids will go to kindergarten in the fall.

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Now that the weather is nicer, I really need a manicure and pedicure. I have no time to do these things myself. My extremities need some pampering!
I also have been promising R that I will take her for her first manicure. She wants a little flower on her nail. It is about time, she is five after all.





Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Life Lesson Learned

It is no secret that my fie year old daughter acts and speaks like she is 15. This is information that I could have used but they left out of the parenting books. This also perplexes the men in this family who usually just shake their heads and go about their merry way because this behavior is one they have grown accustomed to. Yesterday my daughter was acting particularly bitchy to her twin brother. When she was finally done being rotten to him and left the room in a huff he just looked at me and said:

"Girls! They are all crazy."
I was just about to agree with him when he pointed his finger at me and said
"AND you are ONE OF THEM!"

Yes son, I am. I really am.

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Monday, May 12, 2008
Moms

I had a great mother's day. I had asked for breakfast in bed and homemade cards and that is just what I got. We spent the day around the house, just playing together. I realized that for the past five years I have celebrated mother's day as a mother, but I finally I am really celebrating with my whole family. My family is complete with the newest addition.

Although I am dealing with my sadness of putting that part of my life behind me, I am loving that I have my kids, my babies.
They complete me.
They made me a mom. That was the best part of yesterday.
The breakfast was just icing on the cake, the company was the real gift.





Friday, May 09, 2008
More Hours In The Day, Please

I would have never believed how adding one more small baby into our family would have changed the dynamic so much. I am just so busy. I was busy before, sure, but now I know what people mean by "there are not enough hours in the day".
I go from one thing to another, without a breath. Try and write on silly Internet, laundry, cooking, changing diapers and breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is the worst time stealer. I just sit feeding for hours and the baby will only sleep in his car seat during the day. Terrible habit, I know but what else can I do, I have laundry and cleaning to do. Giving him a bottle would be easier and faster but still I sit and breastfeed for hours a day.

I wish I could say that I am so busy I have lost all of my baby weight and then some! But I still have about 10lbs of baby weight to go and about 40 more to be my ideal size. "Ideal" being the key word here.
I am giving myself off for mother's day though, momma wants some brownies!
What do you want for mother's day?





Wednesday, May 07, 2008
Friendship

I was the first one in my circle of friends to have children. When I had my twins I was still living by my home town, so all of my friends came to visit me and my new babies in the hospital. When the remainder of my friends were married I would drive the 1.5 hours home to go to various showers, rehearsal dinners and to participate in weddings. When my friends had their baby I waited 1 day to let the new parents settle in and drove up to visit my friends and their newest arrivals. I wanted to do it.

I visited one friend on the same day I learned I was miscarrying my triplets. I went to Carters with my tear streaked face covered by my darkest and biggest sunglasses to purchase a gift on my way up to see the newest baby in our circle of friends.
This time, when I had my third and last child, E informed my friends via email when he returned that night from the hospital.
Not one of them visited.

Sure there were promises and "tell us when you are settled and we will visit", then things got busy and nothing. They figured they would just see me when I went to one of their child's birthday party that was scheduled for last week.
It took a long time for me to admit that really, I am very hurt. I have shuttled my twins up, missed naps, E has taken off of work, I have found sitters to go and visit them and for them not even to call me for a week after I had my baby is hurtful.
I know life gets in the way, I know how hard it can be to plan trips with kids because I have done it.

I wonder when being a friend is more work then you get back and if that is a friendship at all. Maybe my old friends and I have grown apart more then just geographically.
Maybe it is time for new friends.

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