Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Back To Tears

Last night I attended my children's back to school night. Thank goodness the kindergarten had this combined because I have no idea how I would be in 2 places at once. I planned on talking to the kid's teachers after, to explain our home situation.
R has come home every day from school so far and told me she has received a "bad report". She told me one day she pushed a boy, other days she wasn't a good listener and she was caught talking. Although my daughter can talk paint off a wall, she is a smart girl who loves to learn, but tends to be bored if other kids are not up to her speed. I know this acting out in class is partially because of missing her dad and out new living situation.

I went up to R's teacher after her lecture about what they were doing this year, rules etc. and I told her I wanted to talk about R. I started telling her that R was not a bad girl, that she is good so very good, but her father has left for work and this has been so hard for her.
Then, my voice started cracking. I started to cry.
Right there on the primary colored rug with the map of the United States on it, I cried.
I couldn't stop staring at New Hampshire.

The teacher took pity on me and told me she knew my daughter was a good girl, that she talks a little too much but we can work on it together.
I tried to hide the fact that I was crying in a kindergarten classroom filled with parents. I was mortified.
I could imagine what they were thinking as I was wiping tears pushing a baby in a stroller between two kindergarten classes.

Of course, L's teacher said he is a great student and has no problems.
No crying for me in that classroom!

Now I know I will be told in urban school legends. I will forever be known as the Mom Who Cried at Back To School Night.

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  1. Oh, Honey. I've had those moments too. It will be an adjustment for the little ones, but they are resilient little things.

  2. If I were there, I'd cry with you...I am the resident crier in my town. People at least know now that they should keep a safe distance. Everything will be fine and every day it gets easier!

  3. Anonymous9:53 AM

    Don't worry, tears just mean that you care so much for your child that you can't keep it to yourself. As a teacher, I can tell you, we totally understand. Better to have a mom that cries that one that screams or doesn't show up at all. Cut yourself some slack.

  4. You're going through a rough time, and so are your kids. Don't be ashamed! I'd probably cry, too.

    But then, of course, just like you have, I'd pick myself back up and keep on going.

    Kudos to you!

  5. I don't think there is a mom out there who hasn't had a moment like that!

  6. Totally been there, too. There's a lot of changes going on in her little world, but like has been said, kids are resiliant, and the teacher will totally want to work with you. Tears just mean you're passionate. I cried in my son's reading lab once. It all works out!

  7. Sweets, it happens to the best of us. Don't let it get you down. I cried sitting on a bench waiting for take out once. I never went back to THAT restaurant!

  8. Awwah, I just want to hug you right now! Cry away girl! Who cares what urban legends are created. :)

  9. I think it shows that you care for your kids so very much and any teacher worth it would recognize that.


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