Tuesday, July 25, 2006

Twin Talk

I really never write about my kids on this blog too often. I think it is a little bit of my paranoia of people in my real life finding this blog and a little bit of me just wanting to keep my kids to myself.
Really they are amazing kids and I am so happy to be their mom every day.

I had no idea I was having twins until my first ultrasound. There are no twins in my family (twins running on the husband's side doesn't count) and I wasn't on fertility treatments.
I was just lucky and I do now know why they were sent to me.
To save me.

It is so funny watching them grow together, rely on each other, look for one another when they are uncomfortable.
My daughter, B, is the extrovert, the one who will play with other kids, the one to break away from her brother or us easier.
My son, A tends to look for her support and will follow her where ever she goes. He will stick by Mom and be more loving, she is much too busy for that.
She makes the friends for him and he will follow her lead.

As you can expect we have a lot of toys. What is great about having boy/girl twins is that we have "boy" toys and "girl" toys. They have grown up playing with cars, superheroes and trains just as much as princesses, dolls and tea sets. They love to play with both sets of toys and I think it is extremely healthy and fun.
We never set toys as "girls" or "boys" toys, we never wanted to limit their thinking of what, socially, is or is not acceptable to play with, although now my son will say things like "that is for girls" or "No, I don't want that, B would like it, though".
We are fine with that.

They have never lived a day without the other, a constant playmate, a forever friend. That has been easier on me, so I can get things done around the house instead of always having to be the entertainment.
I wonder how independent they will become at preschool, I wonder if they will still rely on each other as much. I also think about the day when they have separate interests and friends. Will they still be as close because of their twin bond? Will they be as close as same sex twins?

Caring for two little babies at once was hard and demanding, especially because E and I did it ourselves, but I think this part of parenting is much harder.
Helping them become people, who value each other, who don't hit and give each other well deserved privacy in the bathroom.
Making sure they have enough alone mommy and daddy time, and time to be apart for one another.
When we do separate them for alone time, like a trip to the grocery store or bookstore, soon enough the one will ask for the other. As if they couldn't stand to have this experience without sharing it with their other half.
I love that about them.

There is no doubt I am blessed.
Twice over.

7 comments:

  1. *and maybe three times over, soon, right?* wink, wink.
    When I was younger I always said I wanted twins. I have some females in my family that have had twins and triplets...
    My best friend has b/g twins, I love watching them together. Never a dull moment.

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  2. I love hearing the snippets about your children, just as much as I enjoy the blips about other parts of your life. When my son was younger, this thought would go through my head daily:

    "Parenting. The toughest job you'll ever love." It has nothing on the Army, sorry.

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  3. I've always found the connection between twins amazing.

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  4. They are blessed as well, with each other of course and a patient mommy! (a must!)

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  5. one of the best posts ive read all day!! Thanks so much for sharing!! xo lyns

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  6. I have been a long time reader of your blog -- I enjoy reading about your parenting trials as I am going through similar ones (I have a 3 year old and 3 month old). It's comforting to know there is someone else going through what I am going through. I too, know that babies are difficult, but toddlers are the real handful. I can't imagine the work involved in raising twins -- my hat is off to you. You're a great writer, keep it up :)

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  7. thanks guys!

    and hi jennie!

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