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I had a great time yesterday, besides the sitting in the car for 3 hours there-and-back part. Stupid holiday traffic.
Anyways, I got a chance to see my friend and some other friends and her new baby who is sweet and small and snugly. I want one.
I wonder will the baby fever ever go away? Will one day I say "aww a cute new baby, that is sweet but I am complete with what I have"?
I wonder if anything will ever be enough for me. I don't think I am an overly needy person but sometimes I feel myself wanting more. More love, more "things", more money, another baby.
I want to be happy and in the moment. I want to feel complete every day.
Is it even possible?
7 years ago
Nope.
ReplyDeleteIt's an ebb and flow type of thing depending on what other things are going on in our lives.
ReplyDeleteThings always happen to me when I am not thinking about it. I am sure if you focus on other things that baby will be here before you know it ;)
ReplyDeleteI don't think we'll ever feel complete in life. There's always going to be something we want more of or want to change. As far as Baby Fever ever going away, I think it's different for everyone. I don't see myself over baby fever and complete unless we have a few more. Dh is feeling pretty complete on that issue though. lol
ReplyDeleteNever enough with me too. I could do another baby, I could have more money, I could own a thousand Coach bags...I'd still want more!
ReplyDeleteROFL hmmm your post and mine from the other day are very similar. I too visited a new baby over the week-end and it got my ovaries a tingling.
ReplyDeleteThere is no such thing as "perfect happiness." I figure don't define your happiness by everyone else's standards, define by your own. That way you will never be disappointed ;)
You just sound like someone who wants to make sure she is living her life in the best possible way. Nothing wrong with that. For me, I felt complete after giving birth to my last child. I felt I had everything I needed after that. We are all different though. I wouldn't stress over it :)
ReplyDeleteI could be happy everyday if I had all the KFC I wanted...
ReplyDeleteyeah, it's possible
I'm having my own form of baby fever. I suddenly don't feel like our family is finished. I know that having another child would not only crimp our already tight budget it wouldn't allow for me to work even part time so that would even further hurt our budget.
ReplyDeleteSo at the moment we have tabled the discussion. Hubby isn't too keen on the idea...and I don't know if it's more about the finances and less about having another child.
Money seems to be at the root of it all and that's wrong if you ask me.
As for being happy...I think the best thing to do is take it one day at a time and enjoy the good things in that day and be thankful for them. And the things that get you down well try to change them one thing at a time.
Good Luck!
Holy cats, can I empathize with that sentiment, or what?! Here's my personal 2 cents on this (aka, what I'm telling myself at this point - ha): I think there's 2 levels of satiety: base/core, and superficial.
ReplyDeleteYou just experienced a HUGE loss - I would think it's normal to not feel complete. Then there's the superficial things, like Coach bags, hair coloring, nicer carpet, etc.
I think if your dissatisfaction with being complete resides in the latter rather than the former, you're doing OK- maybe just a little bored with yourself or your surroundings. If you feel that more of the former is missing, the big ones like love and happiness, maybe it's something more than perception. If it's more than a passing thought, you might want to talk to a professional about it. I'm not sure how you feel about it, but I do mean this in the best, least patronizing/offending way!