Thursday, May 15, 2008

Wanted: Local Friends

As I have said in a previous post, I am upset with my friends. I talked about it with E this weekend and he is clearly mad too. He has seen me visit at the drop of a hat, for dozens of occasions, and he thinks that in the past 8 weeks they could have found some time to do the same. I found myself trying to defend them but I couldn't. Why should I?
I haven't spoken to my friends about how I feel mostly because they haven't called. I did a little experiment and stopped emailing or writing to them to see how long it would take. I have only talked to my one of my friends one time in eight weeks, she called for my birthday, my other friend has emailed me once in awhile and the other I haven't spoken to in about a week and a half.
I guess geography plays a big role in friendships and I guess it is time to move on. Hopefully I will make some local friends now that my kids will go to kindergarten in the fall.

Now that the weather is nicer, I really need a manicure and pedicure. I have no time to do these things myself. My extremities need some pampering!
I also have been promising R that I will take her for her first manicure. She wants a little flower on her nail. It is about time, she is five after all.


  1. Have you used blogspot's options to see if there are bloggers within your community? That might be an excellent place to start.

    You know if I was closer, I'd probably have to be told to NOT come over so often.

  2. If you live in southern california ,I would love to be your friend.I am not a dead beat friend and would never treat you like your so called friends have treated you.If you want to e-mail me its
    Love Shawny

  3. I am sorry to hear about your friends. It's hard when people you think of as almost family seemingly don't feel the same or think about you the way you do about them.

    I have been where you are and my problem hasn't even been geography. I wish you much luck.

  4. dd, I haven't, how do you do that?
    If we lived closer we would cause havoc, I just know it.

    shawny, I wish I did, I am in NJ

    mama, it seems a common problem.

  5. You are feeling lonely? Try my life... I have teenagers and EVERYTHING revolves around them

  6. Over the years I've lost handfuls of friends for those very reasons. I feel friendships should be a give and take. Not me give, give, giving and them take, take, taking.

    Nothing saddened me more when I looked to my friends for support when my father was dying and a few of them literally told me they couldn't, "handle it".

    I went out and got new friends.

  7. Gregg1:50 PM

    Local friend here...just saying I love your blog. My wife and I live in the Philly area with our 2 kids and I have to say your blog has become morning "ritual" similar to brushing my teeth and drinking the Dunkin Donuts...

  8. Gregg, I am glad you like it, but now I want DD coffee!

  9. I am so sorry about your friends. dd's idea about local mommy bloggers is great, though.

  10. I feel your pain... I have a few long-distance friends, but we hardly ever talk- I THINK they keep up with my blog...
    Speaking of blogs, LOVE yours! :)

  11. I am in NJ too but I think you are further south, I am Exit 12 (Standard NJ Geography Rule #1).

    I am a good buddy though :)

  12. I would so be your friend, if we could find a way to make NJ and Texas a little closer!

  13. I know exactly how you feel. It's like I give it my all and they give nothing. But you know what, maybe you and your friends outgrew each other. That may be a sad fact of life. I came to the conclusion that if they don't look for me or care about what I'm doing, why should I.
    Are you in NY?? I'll be your friend...=)


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